Why Does Love Disturb So Many?

I am heterosexual. However, some close friends are homosexual, and I didn't know before knowing them that it disturbs so many people.

Take my friend Jane for instance. She tried boyfriends as a teenager, but it didn't work. She felt better with girls, slowly evolving from friends to couple. When she said that to her parents, they refused to see what was happening. Why?

Now she's married to another woman, and they've finally accepted it. But I still wonder what the problem was initially.

Jane and I have been friends since college. She's one of the most genuine, caring people I know – the kind of friend who remembers your birthday without Facebook reminders, who shows up with soup when you're sick, who listens without judgment when you need to vent about work or family drama. Her sexuality has never been more relevant to our friendship than her preference for coffee over tea.

But watching her journey has opened my eyes to something I was naive about. The struggle wasn't just about Jane figuring out who she was – it was about navigating a world that seemed determined to make that discovery as difficult as possible.

I remember the night she first told me about Karin, her college girlfriend. We were sitting in my dorm room, sharing a bag of chips and procrastinating on our economics homework…